I was going to write a book review today about Glennon Doyle’s latest memoir Untamed. Instead, I did what I’ve been doing a lot since mid-March: gardening from sunrise to sunset to distract myself from everything else. I even transplanted weeds from my garden to a bare spot in my yard where I thought they’d look good. They didn’t. They wilted. I can’t even keep weeds alive right now.
Glennon Doyle, though. She annoys me. How do you go from stay-at-home mom and Christian blogger (while married to a male model!) to best selling guru of the radical new women’s liberation? If she wasn’t currently married to one of the biggest legends in women’s sports advocacy (soccer player Abbey Wambach) I would for sure hate Doyle and her book Untamed.
Wambach is the real deal. When she retired in 2015 she had scored more goals than any other US soccer player. And yes, that means more then any of the men, even though the men were being paid more.
Glennon Doyle, though. I’m hyper sensitive to women’s self-help narratives about breaking from convention to find yourself. What about those of us who never fit with convention in the first place? Doyle, no offense, but you stole my rhetoric about living untamed and made a fortune doing it while looking like a stylish babe. I worry this kind of shapeshifting to an untamed life steals the limelight (and street cred) from those of us behind the scenes who have been living untamed since, well, forever.
I want to believe Wambach, with her header goals and Title IX advocacy, has been living untamed since the day she first picked up a soccer ball.
I can’t keep my eyes open a second longer. I’m in a sleep deficit because I gardened until 2 a.m. last night. Weird, I know, but I’ve been doing extreme things outside to cope since forever. Can I please have the word untamed back?
Here are a few Abbey Wambach quotes to live by:
Sometimes when you fail, it allows you the opportunity to grow more motivation and get more intense about your training.
As a competitor, I want to continue to keep turning the chapters and keep challenging myself.
It’s not the actual failure itself; it’s how you respond to it.
Your heart can only take you so far – sometimes the physical body tells you otherwise.—Abbey Wambach